By Coach Pav #mycoachpav #momentsofreset
Featured Moments Of Reset Kit: @sshole Repellent MINI Kit
Directions:1) Lather up using "Energy Detox" soap and set an intention to let go of negative energy, people, thoughts and things that no longer serve you.
2) Mist on "@sshole Repellent" on or around you to repel @sshole energy and enhance positive surroundings. WARNING: no matter how tempted you are to do this, DO NOT spray it on the @ssholes directly! It'll only further create more negativity which is the last thing you want!
You know blood-sucking vampires aren’t real, but what about spiritual vampires?
They won’t sink their teeth into you. Instead, they’ll drain your soul. Spiritual vampires (sometimes we just loosely call them @ssholes) are people who suck the energy out of you mentally, physically, and spiritually. They take more than they give. Either intentionally or unintentionally, they grasp on to your willingness to listen to and help them, using your kind spirit to drag you down with them into whatever drama they’re currently involved in.
"Spiritual vampires are often hurting inside; this is why they act the way they do. However, it isn’t your job nor your responsibility to change their behavior. You can’t control how somebody treats you, but you can control how you respond to them."
There are five types of spiritual vampires that you’ll encounter throughout your life. Knowing what they are and how to spot them is a crucial step for purging yourself so you can love and live fearlessly again. Think about the people in your life who drain your energy and see which of these categories they fall into, keeping in mind that some people can be more than one type of spiritual vampire.
The Forever Victim
We’ve all had that friend in our life who’s a consistent victim. Everything happens to them. They’re never at fault for anything. Instead, they’re the receiver of an extraordinary amount of bad luck in every aspect of their lives. Their kid lost a baseball game? It was the umpire’s fault. They didn’t get that promotion? Everyone on the team ganged up against them. Their business went under? It must've been their accountant who fumbled the books. It goes on and on.
"These vampires are typically depressive and passive-aggressive. They have an overall pessimistic and egoistic view of life and blame everyone but themselves for the situations they find themselves in."
How to deal with them
These vampires don’t want advice from you. They want you to feel sorry for them. Often, these forever victims have low self-esteem and can’t face the fact that they have any responsibilities for their lives. This makes it difficult to impossible for you to have any sort of meaningful conversation with them. Be aware of their pity cues, and don’t give in when they start throwing blame around.
The “You Can’t” Vampire
These nay-sayers will hinder your growth by telling you that what you want to do is impossible. They put up artificial barriers for you in an attempt to keep you down. “You can’t start dating yet, it’s only been six months since your divorce!” “You can’t start your own business. How will you pay your mortgage?” “You can’t ask for that promotion; you just started here last year!”
"The assumption with the “you can’t” spiritual vampires is that whatever you want to do is a non-starter. They leave no room for discussion and are uninterested in hearing your ideas. These people won’t support you whether things are going great or you’re facing challenges personally and professionally."
How to deal with them
Know that these vampires aren’t looking out for your own interests. Whether intentionally or unintentionally, they try to sabotage your happiness by putting up obstacles where they don’t need to be. They might be reflecting their own limitations on you, and they could even be jealous of your ambitions.
If you have to deal with them, just smile and nod, and then go about being your bad-ass self, knowing that you are unstoppable, no matter what anyone says.
The Narcissist
The medical condition Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a real disorder that inhibits a person’s ability to process emotions. However, someone can still display narcissistic traits, even without an official diagnosis.
Narcissists usually have low self-esteem, which evolves into an overblown sense of self-importance. They can’t comprehend the idea that someone else might be right or know more than they do. They’re in constant need of praise and control and put themselves first, always. They don’t apologize because they never think they need to.
Oddly enough, narcissists can often be charming. They know exactly what to say to get you to think they care about you. Then, they use you to get whatever they want.
How to deal with them
Once you spot a narcissist, try to avoid them if possible. If that isn’t possible, then know that they aren’t being genuine when they talk to you. Avoid arguments, as they’ll get you nowhere. Many narcissists enjoy making others angry and deliberately push buttons until they get a reaction. Even though they can’t understand how you feel, narcissists like knowing they have the power to manipulate your emotions.
"If you must talk to a narcissist, take control of the conversation. Stay focused, and don’t engage in an argument."
Let them say what they want to say, then calmly resume the conversation. If you need them to do something for you, show them how your request serves their interests. It’s annoying, but often the only way to get a narcissist to do what you want is to have them believe they’re doing it for their own benefit.
The Gossiper
Talking with your co-workers about a story you just read about your favorite actor and his new girlfriend is one thing. Spreading hurtful rumors that will damage someone’s reputation and potentially lead to serious consequences is another thing entirely.
Gossiper spiritual vampires have low self-esteem and oftentimes they’re jealous of others’ accomplishments and/or good fortune.
"Their gossiping behavior usually comes from a place of lack. It’s a self-defense mechanism, although childish, for them to cope with their bruised ego as they talk about the flaws of others to make themselves feel good."
If they’re talking to you about other people, there’s a good chance they’re talking to other people about you as soon as you turn your back.
How to deal with them
Don’t engage in gossip. Saying hurtful things about someone else offers you zero benefits. Cut this type of spiritual vampire off by saying something like, “I don’t believe in gossip,” then walk away. If you can’t avoid a gossiper altogether, you can at least disengage when they start to talk about other people.
The Mad Dog
These people are angry at the world. They have pessimistic outlook in life, which might come from fears or from negative personal experience. Nothing seems to satisfy them. They cling to their anger and suffering. Even when things go their way, they still find a new reason to be upset.
"These vampires might take their anger out on you if you happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. If you’re lucky, you’ll just get to hear them vent about how everything in their lives takes the wrong turns."
How to deal with them
People who are angry all the time have issues they need to deal with. Nothing you can do or say will make them see the world as anything but a big conspiracy plot designed to piss them off. Your best bet is to avoid them as much as possible. If you can’t, then just listen to them as long as you need to until you can make an exit.
"Of course, I don’t want you to write off the important spiritual vampires in your life completely. I’m a firm believer that people can evolve—IF they put their hearts and energy into making positive changes."
If you have a spiritual vampire in your life who’s committed to changing for the better, you may be able to help them elevate once you feel equipped to deal with them.